Why single women should ditch Facebook: Seeing friends' weddings and babies is bad for their health, says
relationship expert
- Zoe Strimpel says the social media site bombards singletons with pictures of 'perfect' weddings and babies, which causes envy and voyeurism
- Is bad for health as enhances the sense that a single person's life is lacking
- Wealth of information available on Facebook about potential suitors can also
make women feel closer to them than they are - which is
'quite corrosive'
Author Zoe Strimpel says Facebook bombards single women with pictures of 'perfect' weddings and babies, which causes envy and voyeurism
Single women should ditch Facebook because the best spinner 'perfect
lives' of their friends are bad for their health, a relationship
expert has warned.
Author Zoe Strimpel says the social media site bombards singletons with pictures of 'perfect' weddings and babies which causes envy and voyeurism.
She said: 'What [Facebook] does is it enhances the sense that your life is lacking and specifically, when you are single, you focus in on all those pictures of perfect weddings, perfect babies, perfect couples.
She urged single women to cut down or get rid of Facebook completely during a lecture at Cambridge's Festival of Ideas.
She said getting rid of
your profile will help 'limit that delicious but yucky feeling of voyeurism, slight envy, maybe even narcissism.'
Ms Strimpel, who wrote ‘Man Diet: One Woman's Quest to End Bad Romance', said the best spinner fairer sex also spends too much time monitoring potential suitors online.
She said the ready availability of biographical information on Facebook encourages women to over-analyse potential dates.
'You become
addicted to information that you
might not need to know about, say, Joe the musician who you drunkenly snogged at
a house warming, but who turns out has a girlfriend.
'Thanks to Facebook you
may know his mother's name, the details of his last holiday, the names of his
exes, who he is hanging around with.
'This is not healthy or helpful information, article spinner plus it gives the best spinner impression that these men are more in your life than they actually are, which is quite corrosive.
'There's plenty of psychology that supports taking a break from social media.'
On a more positive note. The Joy of Sex spin rewriter 12 Susan Quilliam told the best spinner same conference modern women have never had it better in bed.
the best spinner psychologist, single at 63 after her marriage of 25 years ended, said women are free to enjoy sex - unlike her mother who didn't know what her clitoris was.
Ms Strimpel said the best spinner site 'enhances the best spinner sense that your life is lacking and specifically, when you are single, you focus in on all those pictures of perfect weddings, perfect babies, perfect couples' (file picture)
She said: 'I can, if I so wish, go out and sleep with somebody tonight without opprobrium, without being told I'm a slut.
'Well there are some people who will still
think I'm a slut, but largely we are lucky.
'We are lucky post pill and post the Abortion Act to be able to know and decide where, what, who, how and also whether and where to look for sex - and where things are and what to do with them.
'My mother admitted to me she did not know what her clitoris was.'
Ms Strimpel and Ms Quilliam were
joined by the best spinner Erotic Review founder Rowan Pelling to discuss ‘How
to be a single woman in 2013, whether you're 25 or 60'.
Explaining the inspiration for
her book, Ms Strimpel added: 'I
was 28 and I just had broken up with a boyfriend - "‘Oh my God I'm single, I'd better act single".
She added that the wealth of information available on Facebook encourages women to over-analyse potential dates. 'This is not healthy or helpful information, plus it gives the impression that these men are more in your life than they actually are, which is quite corrosive'
'I've got
to in some way channel Samantha from Sex and the City.
What this meant was seeing a lot of men, most of whom I didn't particularly like, and going on dates
even when I would have preferred to stay in with a
cup of tea and a book.
'It meant
a lot of drinking, a lot of staying out late and feeling hungover at work, which was horrible.
'It meant telling a lot of funny stories about my capers to my friends, who loved it and they wanted more and more, and spending a lot time worrying about various guys that I don't even remember now.
'There was
fun goodness and yucky badness.
For some reason the best spinner badness was getting the best spinner upper hand.'
